Some of you might disagree, and that is fine. I can already feel the weird, misguided comments coming from those that are either going to skim this post or look at the title and draw their own false conclusions.
But at the end of this day, this is still my blog where I can post whatever content I wish.
I am a feminist. I believe in being strong, independent, and fearless. I am all for female empowerment and equality of the sexes. I’m not even going to get into detail with this, because I could go on endlessly and write a whole blog on feminism.
I don’t like the term girl boss. Boss babe, lady boss, all of those terms sound incredibly patronizing and always make me shake my head. You know what I’m talking about, the quotes on Pinterest and the baby pink accenting and Sophia Amoruso.
Let me make it crystal clear by saying that there’s nothing wrong to aspiring a strong, successful, independent woman. That’s what I aspire to be. There is however, something problematic with specifically labeling the term as a “girl boss.”
It begs the question, “Why can’t I be a boss? Why do I have to be a girl boss?” Why is it necessary to differentiate between an all-around boss, and a girl boss? It creates this view that a successful woman is not a boss, but specifically a boss.
Why is this even remotely necessary? Can you imagine if men called themselves “boy boss” or “man boss?” Or even worse… “bro boss?” I believe that we would all laugh uproariously at them. Honestly, it’s patronizing and creates an unnecessary separation between the sexes. Shouldn’t a young woman aspire to be a boss, and not a “girl boss?”
It’s as if we created this term so that women can adopt some sweet and adorable title that isn’t menacing. Something cutesy and non-threatening. And I find that pretty unempowering and pretty sexist.
And I think what really bugs me is the conventional femininity of this whole idea. The flowers, the pale pink, the lipstick and the attempt at making a successful woman “cute.” Because the fact of the matter is this. Women shouldn’t be diluting their success or accomplishments by making it “cutesy.”
Because this all creates a belief that women cannot be in charge, but only that they can be in charge and adorable. You can be successful as a woman, without being adorable and cutesy, contrary to what society is trying to shove down their throats. And you shouldn’t ever downplay your achievements or success.
This term is honestly, misguided and sexist, and we are dumbing down the concept of a woman who is successful. I do not admire the female role models in my life because they take cute Instagrams or because their outfits are chic. I admire them because they are powerful, strong, fierce, and incredible women. I would never tell any of them that they are a boss babe or a lady boss. I would just tell them that they are a boss.
Each and every day women are treated differently because of their gender. Whether we choose to acknowledge it, it is undeniable that women are not treated equal to men. It’s upsetting and it’s unfair, and terms like these just perpetuate that continual belief. Because why would you have to specify that you are a successful and driven woman by saying that you are a girl boss? How is that remotely empowering? Please, just say that you’re a boss.
I understand that we are all just trying to empower each other, and acknowledge female success. But we really need to examine why it’s considered necessary to add the “girl” before the boss.