ACTUALLY, Feminism IS Necessary


I was going to post a fun, casual, catch-up kind of blog post but then I read a blog post from another blogger that made me stop completely in my tracks.

It was like one of those blog posts that you read that makes you completely shake your head and throw your hands up in the air.

Basically, her point was that women shouldn’t be fighting for anything and that they are not marginalized. (Among many other things that were…ugh. Halee and I have been discussing this post for a while. I suggest that if society ever frustrates you, to discuss with a friend your perspectives and viewpoints. Also check out Halee’s blog!)

*takes a deep breath*

Okay, listen. I’m going to take a moment and be real with you all here. Each and every person has their own beliefs and experiences. I am a young, ethnic woman soon to be working in a male-dominated field and industry. I’m an Asian American woman who was born and raised in Illinois, and I attended a liberal university in the college of Chicago. Therefore, I have interacted with and know a very diverse group of people and have had very different experiences than other people. I get that.

In my everyday life, I have constantly had experiences that were sexist, racist, discriminatory, and terrible. When I worked at a healthcare nonprofit one of the veterans refused to acknowledge or even talk to me (he would literally ignore me and not even say hello, as if I was an object) because of the fact that I was a Vietnamese woman. All of my (older, Caucasian) coworkers literally told me that I was making it up because I was the youngest person in the office, and also because I was a woman. An older male coworker justified the racism and discrimination by telling me that I just had to accept it because I was a young ethnic woman.

It was as if they were telling me that I did not matter and that I should not have been treated with decent human respect based on my ethnicity and my gender.


When my brilliant, PhD candidate TA told us that she had a child my freshman year of college, everyone stopped asking her questions about the class. They only asked her questions about her child and why she was getting a PhD when she was also a mother. She was visibly uncomfortable and literally had to ask my male classmates not to ask her any more questions about her child. Literally, before she mentioned that fact people asked her plenty of questions about biological sciences and her research. I remember seeing the look on her face and immediately sensing the struggle that she had to endure to be taken seriously as a woman in the field of STEM. That was one of the very first moments

That was one of the very first moments that I quickly realized that being a woman in STEM, and being a woman, in general, is difficult. And that feeling has never faded.

And every day in my life, no one ceases to remind me that not only am I a woman, but also an Asian-American woman.

It is irrefutable that women are marginalized and face gender discrimination. Plenty of people skew stats to their liking and claim that there’s no visible evidence, but it is so obvious that attitudes about women need to change. Just because you have not been marginalized, discriminated against, or faced sexism and racism does not mean that it doesn’t exist.

It’s a terrible, entitled, and privileged viewpoint to things, and it is just plain sad. By believing that something you don’t see is non-existent it perpetuates this belief that it is permissible to ignore and dismiss serious problems in our society. It is undeniable that women continue to fight for their rights and equality because it is something that we still do not have. 

I could yammer on for an incredibly long tangent about feminism and sexism, but I’ll stop myself. We live in a society where women cannot wear and dress how they want. Compared to other countries, yes, women have more rights in the United States but they still do not fully have equal rights. We claim in the United States that women can become president, but elected a completely unqualified (among many other things) over a woman who was tremendously qualified for the position.

We claim that women can wear and do whatever they want but women are sexually assaulted and then always shamed and blamed. How many times have you heard, “she shouldn’t have worn that,” or “she shouldn’t have been there,” or “she shouldn’t have put herself in that position?” Countless times. And the fact of the matter is, it doesn’t matter where she was or what she was doing, she still should not have been sexually assaulted. Instead of teaching women that they have to watch out for themselves and that they MUST watch what they’re doing, how about we teach people not to sexually assault people? 

How about we teach consent? How about we stop perpetuating this belief that women need to watch themselves and be afraid, and instead re-evaluate the beliefs we are putting into our society?

There are so many instances of women being treated unequally and unfairly. It’s so common and something that each and every woman endures whether or not they acknowledge it. I don’t want my daughter to grow up in a world where people think it is acceptable to tell her that women are supposed to behave a certain way, or that they are only allowed to have certain interests.


I don’t want her to grow up in a world where she is paid less than a man and treated differently because she is a woman. I don’t want her to live in a world where men are making choices about her body and she is taught by society that she must constantly be watching out for herself or afraid of what might happen to her. I want her to grow up in a world where she believes that she can do truly anything she sets her heart and mind to, and where she feels safe and knows she matters.

I want her to grow up in a world where she believes that she can do truly anything she sets her heart and mind to, and where she feels safe and empowered. I want her to empower other women, instead of fighting against them like everyone else perpetuates. I want her to know that her body and her choices are hers and that no one, especially a man can make (or force) those opinions, choices, and beliefs on her.

And most importantly, I want her to feel like she doesn’t have to work extra hard to be taken seriously. I want people to attribute her success to her hard work and her perseverance. I want her to be able to know she is good enough, and not feel like she is less because she is a woman.

Every day, I wonder if that will happen, or if my daughter will be reminded every day that she is an Asian American woman through misogyny, sexism, and discrimination.

“I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat.”
― Rebecca West



26 thoughts on “ACTUALLY, Feminism IS Necessary

  1. Many of my co-workers didn’t understand the Women’s March and the continued protesting of the immigration ban and the countless other things our new government is doing. Millions of people marched in January and thousands protested the immigration ban at airports across the country. The sheer number of people the turned off Netflix, got off their sofas, and participated in one or many of the protests/marches is a signal that there is unrest and discontent. At the end of the day, I wish my co-workers and others would open their ears and eyes.

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    1. I agree completely with what you say and you make such a good point! The fact that it was people of all ethnicities, ages, genders, etc, rising up to participate truly shows that this is an issue that many individuals recognize and want change regarding. So many people that it’s just women saying something about it…but it is EVERYONE. I definitely wish there was a lot of people in my life that would open their eyes to what is going on around us, not just to women but everyone!

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    2. Why would you participate in a woman’s rights march and one to allow Islam. Islam is against women rights… In America, rape and abuse of women are disproportionate in Islamic households. If you represent both you are retarded.


  2. This is such a great post, Chrissey. It always disturbs me to see people claim that racism and sexism no longer exist when these behaviors have been ingrained in our society for hundreds of years. One thing that has always really bothered me is dress code for girls in school. When administrators ban young girls from wearing tank tops and shorts to school, they are teaching them the victim blaming mentality that we see in a lot of sexual assault cases. It’s incredibly frustrating when people who haven’t personally experienced sexism or racism act like these things don’t exist and try to speak over the people who have experienced them.

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    1. Thank you so much, Paige! I’ll have to send you the post that bothered me because it made me TRULY shake my head. I’ll DM you after I write this comment. I agree completely when you say that this behavior has been ingrained, it is as if its already wrongfully infused into people’s mentalities and that they are conditioned to believe these things. I remember when I was in high school (like…4-5 years ago, a teacher told me that I couldn’t wear one of my shorts because they were short and distracting to the male students. I wasn’t dressed inappropriately and my reaction was literally “why does what I wear affect them? Why do I have to change?” And she made me feel SO ashamed and as if it was my fault. There’s so many cases of sexism in society and it always hurts my heart because I realize that we haven’t progressed as much as I believed.

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      1. You’re welcome! It’s really terrifying to see how our society encourages these sexist attitudes. Looking at how dress codes are used to shame women for their bodies definitely shows how the world has yet to progress.

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  3. So so true! So so well said! I can’t agree more- feminism is so needed yet it is openly laughed at! What I find the worse is these young women that somehow become indoctrinated with patriarchy and begin viciously victim blaming and gah!!! We NEED feminism, we NEED to stop the number of assaults happening to women. We also NEED to take women seriously for once… Because its 2017 for f*cks sake! *rages away*

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    1. It always makes me shake my head when women are part of the problem, like when they villainize other women or claim that feminism isn’t necessary. I think there’s a lot of changes that need to be made and that feminism is 100% necessary. It’s sad to think that in 2017, equality for women is still considered a radical idea.

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      1. Right?! It shouldn’t be radical. And they derail the conversation to instead focus on men such as ‘men get rape too’- while ignoring the fact that men are never scared of walking down the road like women are! Agh… In Canada there was such shitfits when there was finally a 50/50 in congress (I think) and so many women were saying it was discrimination. Agh! *rant over* But Thank you so much for writing this. People need to keep speaking out for feminism to keep the movement alive!


  4. So many people pretend to be blind to the inequalities of people all over the world, definitely including women. I wish people would stop that and do something to fix it. I hate seeing people ignore things that are so blatant and in front of us everyday.

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    1. I agree completely! A lot of people have the view where if something doesn’t directly affect them, that they’ll just ignore the issue. That’s a terrible way to view things and really dismisses important issues that are blatantly in front of us.

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  5. How many feminists does it take to change a light bulb?
    Non… Feminists cant change anything.

    P.s. shut up and get back to the kitchen


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