Here’s Something Shocking

 I aspire to work in the field of healthcare and I have always been constantly reminded of that decision every day of my life by my peers or classmates. 

I was reminded of the fact as a young woman struggling to be taken seriously by male classmates and I was reminded every time someone questioned my intelligence based on my “girly, fashionable” appearance. Many classmates never hesitated to label me as someone that wasn’t “serious” and “intelligent” based on superficial matters and this continual belief that a woman couldn’t be simultaneously interested in physiology and handbags was ingrained in the system.

My lab partner for freshman year chemistry lab told me that he doubted that I would even pass the class. I got a higher score than he did and my future career is literally lab based.

No matter how hard I worked, it seemed that no one would believe that I was capable of intelligent thought or success. To to this day, I still remember one of my coworkers giving me fully unsolicited criticism and telling me that they didn’t see me working in the field of healthcare and that I should switch to marketing, fashion, or public relations. As if it was her call to make.

Spoiler alert: I blog about fashion and beauty but I’m smart too. GASP. I never understand why people are so quick to discriminate against having fashion or beauty as interest for women in science or medicine. Because I assure all of you, I am a smart person. Even if my eyeliner is perfect.

I know you’re all going to be shocked by this, but I’m a fully capable and intelligent young woman that’s a future medical professional AND a fashion and beauty blogger at the same time. GASP. Inconceivable right? (PS this is sarcasm).

Just because I write about makeup and clothes, doesn’t mean that I am incapable of  intelligent thought. I hate how so many people are prejudiced and discriminate against fashion and beauty bloggers. They are so quick to judge and assume that writing about lifestyle topics makes someone unintelligent, shallow, incompetent, or superficial. 

This attitude is something that continues to frustrate me and constantly makes me wonder if this is how things are going to be for the rest of my life. Are people always going to be completely stunned that I want to be a medical laboratory scientist? Are people going to forever think that my fashion blogging makes me unqualified to be a medical professional? 

Am I going to have to live with people constantly judging me and believing me to be unqualified for superficial and petty reasons?

Because to completely honest with all of you, it’s bullshit. 

And for f’s sake, can’t a girl like immunology, One Piece, and Kate Spade all at the same time? I could tell you everything about urinalysis in depth, all about the X-Men, and identify MAC lipsticks from swatches. All three.

Shockingly enough, I am a person with a diverse set of interests and passions. Wow, right? (Sarcasm, again).

I think this all makes me irritated because at the end of the day, I know that my male classmates have not had to deal with even half of this nonsense. No one questions a guy’s qualifications based on the fact that he loves the Patriots, so why should anyone question mine because I love fashion?

Here’s something shocking (aka something that should be considered not at all shocking but rather normal)–maybe we should evaluate a person’s qualifications and value on things that matter, and not sexist or superficial nonsense. There are phenomenal doctors out there that have a passion for medicine and fashion, and nurses that love hockey and neonatal care. And I don’t think that interests are a defining factor in judging the intelligence or qualifications are either.

Our interests make us unique–because what would life be like if you couldn’t love two polarly different things at the same time?

At the end of the day, I guarantee you that my lifestyle blogging and love of fashion doesn’t make me a less qualified (future) medical professional, it makes me a more unique one.

“When they judge you, yawn.

When they misunderstand you, smile.

When they underestimate you, laugh.

When they condemn you, ignore.

When they envy you, rejoice.

When they oppose you, prevail.”

-Matshona Dhliwayo

What is an “unexpected” passion or interest that you have? Do people wrongfully judge you in your career or school?




18 thoughts on “Here’s Something Shocking

  1. Love this post! I’ve had people judge me left and right about who I am, my likes, my dislikes, what I like to do. It can be so frustrating. Sometimes I just want to shout, “Not everyone is the same!” I have come to terms with my personality and am thankful for it. Some people will just have to have a problem with it and I will be just fine.

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    1. I am so sorry for the prolonged response! Things have been CRAZY with applications to grad school! I definitely understand where you’re coming from and it’s definitely frustrating! Each and every person is unique and I find that our interests are what make us different from the rest!

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    1. Thank you for commenting! It’s definitely something that a lot of women struggle with, especially in male-dominated industries! Thank you for the kind words and I wish you well too!

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  2. Hey!
    Saw your site on Community Pool.
    I have a classmate who would totally relate to this. We study Medicine, and everyone expects nerds that just read and nothing else.
    She makes up, dresses well and all of that.
    This thing about some people thinking they have it all on how your life should be… Really sad.
    I wrote ‘A girl may have no name’ on my blog. I’d like you to read it.

    Cool blog. Cool write. Just be you!

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    1. Thank you for stopping by and commenting–welcome! I think it’s an experience that a lot of women (especially in healthcare and medicine) relate to. People are so quick to diminish others for unfair reasons! I definitely will check out your post!

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  3. People are usually really surprised that one of my fav movies is the Matrix series. It’s pretty out there and very action-packed and kinda futuristic. I lived with my dad growing up so my sister and I grew up watching all of these action movies and we love them! That’s the first thing I thought of with your ending question. By the way, it’s unfortunate that people make comments like that to you and that they even think that way :/ Hate that. I think all of your diverse interests are part of what makes your blog so fun to read!

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    1. People are the same way when I say I like Kung fu, action, or spy movies! Or when I talk about One Piece lol. I think interests are what make us special and I also think it’s really dumb that people make weird comments! I’ve actually never seen the Matrix so I will have to check them out!

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  4. You are right, Chrissy. Some people think you shouldn’t be fashionable because you are in an healthcare profession…
    As a nurse, I have faced such before. People expect you to look so serious because you are dealing with lives. I don’t know what that got to do with intelligence….
    I have even been told to switch to modelling.

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    1. People like that always make me shake my head! It’s unfortunate that a woman cannot be considered both beautiful and intelligent! And of course, valued for her smarts and skill.

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  5. Hi this is the first time coming across your blog I love it!
    I relate to this so much! I want to go to medical school, but I feel like people do not take me seriously because I love clothes and doing my makeup everyday. I just try to ignore what other people think!

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    1. Hi Lindsay, it’s nice to meet you. Thanks for stopping by and I’m glad you could relate to the post! It’s definitely frustrating and I’ve learned that although I gotta work 400x as hard to be taken seriously, it’s definitely motivating. I also just ignore what others say.

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